Life choices present a variety of options and decisions. What to do or not what to do? What makes wise choices?
Some refer to choices as mistakes and the difference between right and wrong. In any event whether we make a right or left turn, our destiny is chosen.
If things go awry, we often wonder, what if? We wonder if our destiny could have been different; and if so, could we change things to the way it could have been?
Some of us either learn or repeat the choices again. We need to learn from our own choices even though others have forewarned us.
No matter what, we must take responsibility for our choices in all circumstances. There is no going back, so forget the "pity party" and make the best of the choices. Otherwise, living in the past rather than the now seems to be trend.
It is possible to retrain our brains to think differently. We need to forget the negativity of certain choices and turn them into positive thoughts that could lead to better acceptance and healthier existences and relationships.
Choices-what is right and what is wrong? It all depends on the outcome. Choosing to do wrong, i.e., as breaking the rules or justifying an act against a contract, we may seem justified and feel that we cannot be caught.
Justification seems to be the root of the issue-feeling justified in doing wrongful acts eventually wreaks havoc with things catching up and leading to misfortune and troubles beyond belief.
Peer pressure seems to emphasize choices, especially during the adolescent years, which presents obstacles. If we do not do what the peer group wants to do, we may be bullied, ridiculed, and possibly threatened to have no friends any longer.
What would it be like without friends? How do we cope without prior friends? Some of us get quite depressed to the point of suicide, and yet others move on and do without friends.
It is possible to move on and engage without the peers that could possibly lead us down the wrong path. Dominating or catty friends cause pain and frustration leading to isolation for some. That isolation could make or break us.
It could be quite rewarding for us in deciding choices that could lead to escaping from the power exuded from dominating so-called friends. Breaking loose helps us to learn the true concept of independence and being true to ourselves.
Let me leave you thinking about choices through these quotes:
"There's small choice in rotten apples," Shakespeare, "The Taming of a Shrew".
"Choice of attention...is to the inner life what choice of action is to the outer. In both cases, we are responsible for choice and must accept the consequences, whatever they may be" (W.H. Auden, p. 310).
"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved" (William Jennings Bryan, p. 318).
Edward A. Murphy, Jr., in 1949, known as Murphy's Law had it right, "If anything can go wrong, it will."
"Everyone that believes that what suits him is the right thing to do" (Goethe,"Torguato Tasso, 1790).
Writer Catherine M. Oliverio lives in Vermont and is a frequent contributor to regional newspapers. She worked in the corporate environment and holds undergraduate degrees in marketing, business organizational management and graduate degrees in writing and teaching. She teaches English at Poultney High School.