A local auctioneer and raconteur is famously known for saying "Never give up, never give up." He once explained to me that his philosophy had its origins as an auction strategy. If you are doing poorly at an auction the only chance you have to get back to even or better is to keep bidding in the hopes that you will make enough good buys to render null your losses. Often people stop bidding after a bad bid, and in doing so they have no chance.
As a mantra or life strategy, "Never give up" is as good as anything Deepak Chopra, Tony Robbins, Dr. Phil or any of the rest have come up with in my vastly limited and humble opinion. Since the philosopher that coined the phrase has no book or CD set that we can purchase, the meaning of "Never give up" is self evident. So, what does the phrase mean as applied to life outside an auction?
Each must determine what "even or better" means to them. Have you given up on your health by gaining weight, not exercising or continuing smoking? It is never too late to quit smoking, lose weight and start a safe exercise program with a chance to get "even or better." If you have given up on your life partner, it is never too late to discuss with your partner how to get to "even or better." If your relationship with your children is not what you would like it to be, it is never too late to get "even or better."
While never giving up at an auction may help you get to even or better, never giving up on yourself or your important relationships has a greater cost and much greater benefits. Forgiving yourself for getting fat or inactive won't be easy, but necessary so that you can actually see yourself as you are, including the fat. Forgiving yourself and or your partner may be very difficult, even if you apply the never give up philosophy you may not arrive at your ideal relationship, but rather even or a little better. Maybe never giving up is forgiving yourself and others so that you can at least get back to even or a little better.
At an auction and in life, getting back to even or a little better is pretty good. There are many wise people among us, some with impressive letters behind their signatures and some with common sense insights that are equally valuable. Never give up and always give yourself a chance to get even or better. Remember all kids count.
Scot Hurlburt can be reached by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org