I met an attractive gal at the fair last week. We talked for a few minutes and I thought along with being pretty, she was interesting and smart. She works at a proffesional job (not the kind you might imagine the girls I see normally have), and she seemed sharp as a gimlet. She also seemed very sweet and confident.
As she left to catch up with the folks she came with, she smiled wide and said, You know where to find me, which was true because shed told me where she worked.
I was almost positive telling me I could find her wasnt bait she was casting out to get a call from me. I was sure she meant it professionally, since the place she works offers service that I can use.
I was also sure she wouldnt probably be too embarrassed or upset if I gave her a ring and asked her out, so I did. You cant get a hit if you dont swing. A bee dont sting if hes lost reverse. All those sayings apply. (I made the bee one up ha, pretty funny sometimes I crack myself up really)
She answered her extension with a voice full of energy, Rusty DeWees, you found me, she blurted in a way that, to my ear anyway, sounded like she was happy to hear from me.
We had a very light and fun conversation, and after about a minute and a half I asked her if shed like to go on a date. She asked me for my number so she could call me back later in the evening, Ill call you after work, she said with a tone full of smiles. With my tongue in my cheek I said, Oh, you wont be like those people who say that and never do will you? Oh no, I wouldnt be that way, Ill call you, was her response. I totally felt comfortable with the date request and how shed taken it. Our entire phone exchange couldnt have been more pleasant.
I havent heard from her.
What a shame. Not because I wont be getting to go out with the gal, but because people should do what they say.
You say youre going to call someone, call them. I dont care if youre calling back some dude youre not interested in who has asked you out, or if youre returning a call from the Town Clerk who has news your taxes have doubled. You tell them youll call them, call them. How rude otherwise?
Im not writing this so the girl sees it and feels angry or put on the spot in any way, I dont mean to make her uncomfortable, and I hardly think shell read this in the first place. (Besides, only she would know its her Im talking about). Instead, this column is meant to remind us of all the times we say well do things, and we dont.
No matter how large or small the spoken commitment, there may be someone on the other end with expectations, wholl if you fail to follow through, will feel like theyve been hung out to dry.
Silly them for putting faith in that person in the first place.
Follow through with simple spoken commitments. This column is meant for me as much as anyone.
Actually you know what, that last line made for a good last line, but the truth is, I call everyone back, so this column isnt meant for me. Im fault full to the nines, but by Godfrey if I say Ill call, I call. And when I call, I tell the truth. Why? Because Im selfish. Because living within the truth in all things makes for a very smooth path, and I like a smooth path.
All the lies and fibs and half-truths and games we play everyday, starting with our friendly, affable, somewhat goofy President, are adding up to a big ole mess. Even a simple date blow-off is a hearty ingredient to the trickery we all deal with every hour of every day.