Dear Style & Substance:
I am facing some major decisions in my life and am floundering on how to get started in moving forward because I have made some poor life decisions in the past. I have some good options both personally and professionally. Can you recommend a good strategy for getting started?
We think that creating a “measuring stick” for yourself would be a good first step that can be used as a guide for a long time… it is an introspective way of understanding yourself through developing a personal mission statement.
Time Thoughts defines it most succinctly, “A personal mission statement is a description of what you want to focus on, what you want to accomplish and who you want to become in a particular area of your life. It is a way to focus your energy, actions, behaviors and decisions toward the things that are most important to you.” The creation of a personal mission statement allows room for your best and truest self to grow.
Although it is not a good practice to dwell in the past, a brief visit will help you gather and discard characteristics, desires, successes and failures to build your bridge into the future. This historical journey is most satisfying and meaningful when led by an open and frank assessment of experiences. We need to know who we are in order to dream up who we can become. This is a positive and productive exploration in which you can remember or rejuvenate your passions and discover your purpose. (the style & substance 4 P’s)
• Step 1: Ask yourself these simple questions and write small phrases on a clean sheet of paper…some words/phrases may be negative and some positive, an honest place to start.
What qualities have defined me in the past?
What is my perception of myself at work, at home, at leisure? What qualities do others perceive?
What do I want to change?
What do I long for or what do I want to become?
These words may help you get started:
• Step 2: Put positive words next to the negatives…focusing on what you wish to become.
• Step 3: Take these new words to a clean sheet and using the question… What would I like to define me?... work with them towards your first effort at a personal mission statement.
• Step 4: Measure your choices and options up against this statement, staying true to this new definition of self.
Personal Mission Statements can be simple or elaborate; As simple as “Never give up!” or more descriptive, as the “NED Show” states, “Never give up, Encourage others, and Do your best.”
Michele’s personal mission statement is: “Only the best is good enough.”
Honoring the best in myself and others will guide my intentions, my choices, my relationships…..my actions will reflect this truth. Sally’s personal mission statement is: “Live with joy and gratitude. Encourage and Inspire.” If what I am doing is not in line with how I have decided to live, and that most definitely happens daily, I gently remind myself of the commitment that I have made.
Now that you have created the measuring stick, you can measure all decisions up to this. Along with this step we suggest that you include or try: looking at where you want to ultimately end up and visualizing that outcome at the end of a straight road or path. Think of your good decisions as a way to stay on this straight path to the ultimate outcome. The personal mission statement serves as the boundaries or guard rails on the path, to virtually keep you out of the ditch!! Good luck.
A S K
Style & Substance
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