Dear style & substance readers:
We have decided to mix things up a bit this week – we are going to create a mash-up. A mash-up, in this case, is a combination of different questions we have received about slightly different topics that share a common theme: Personal Style. The answers to What is it?, How do I get it?, and Why do I need it? can all be discovered with a bit of life coaching and a small leap of faith (in yourself).
“Style helps distinguish you. It's a great potential opportunity that people tend to leave by the wayside."
First Lady Michelle Obama recently shared these thoughts with Kate Betts in an interview published in Harper’s Bazaar. You do not need to be the First Lady of the United States of America to distinguish yourself – personal style is about taking your life seriously and sharing with the world that what you do is important. You are doing great things, and if you aren’t, it is never too late to get moving. Great style is showing up ready to take care of business.
Personal style is about expressing your intelligence as well as your sense of fun. Style is not frivolous, it is an expression of all you are and all you want to become – your best self. Our culture has become very casual even in the workplace. We often see people in all professions looking wrinkled and ill kempt. Money does not equal style. Clothing that is clean and pressed and fits well does not need to cost a fortune. Style is being mindful and careful about appearance. Style breeds confidence; in yourself and how others view you.
Developing a signature look may take some time and effort. First, think about your favorite color palette. For most people this is instinctual and natural. Next, make the decision to dress your body in the here and now, not the body you plan on having when you lose 10 pounds. This leap of faith takes commitment and emotional stamina – you are taking care of you and that might take some adjusting. Once you have made that commitment, look around at the people you know as well as magazines and develop an idea guide – keep pictures of clothes, colors, shoes, etc. In Style offers many ideas to help get you started on your look, and it is on the shelf at Plattsburgh Public Library!
In order to ring in the new, you must make room and that means letting go of what no longer serves you. Clean out your closet. Save pieces that have special meaning and start small. Let go of a few pieces at a time; believe that letting go becomes much easier than when you started your personal transformation.
We have been taught to assess character and make judgments with kind and compassionate truisms: what is on the inside counts or don’t judge a book by its cover. While these thoughts are true and have merit, the greater truth is we are all human and we judge and are judged by the ways in which we present ourselves to the world. Often times our outward appearance is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves and the message we want to, knowingly or unknowingly, send to the world. We encourage you to give yourself permission to look good. Why not? As a friend of ours has said, “Why look bad when you can look better?”
A S K Style & Substance:
Michele Armani and Sally Meisenheimer, creative life coaching solutions
Email your questions or request a life coaching appointment to email@example.com for more information: visit our website at yourstyleandsubstance.com.