Dear Style & Substance:
With spring being just around the corner I have decided that this is the perfect time for new beginnings. My dilemma is where to begin……I want to lose weight, update my look, and change my job. Is this too much change at once? I am very motivated and ready to take action but I do not want to fail. I have tried making changes in the past but have given up when I hit a roadblock. How can I make and maintain positive change?
We applaud your motivation and your desire for self-improvement. We also recognize the truth of taking on too much and meeting with failure and disappointment. Disappointment in yourself certainly drains the desire and does nothing to support your goals.
The first step in your personal transformation should be a realistic self-assessment. Dig deeper into your motivation – discover the answer as to why you are feeling the need for so much change at one time. Are you dissatisfied with your appearance? Do you feel stuck or unfulfilled in your work? Are you pleased with who you are at this moment?
The answers to these questions can guide your spring action plan. We believe in a holistic approach to health and wellness that uses MODERATION as the guiding factor. We also believe dressing up in flattering clothes can build self-confidence in that the outside appearance leads to the internal belief. Fashion and style can be interpreted as self-expression.
An easy daily plan and realistic approach can be to use an a-la-carte menu of activities or actions that will be beneficial to your improvement plan and hopefully something that you begin to naturally incorporate into the daily maintenance and development of YOU. Make it simple; add or subtract from this list, by clarifying what the steps mean to you…then pick 2 or 3 every day to complete.
CHANGE! Change is a challenge to yourself…change up your routine in the morning, start using your non-dominant hand to do mundane things, drive a different way to work, school or home, change your lipstick…you can see that anything can be tweaked and changed a bit. This could be a CHANGING factor in your attitude; your brain has to think a little harder, you challenge yourself a little and you are absolutely MINDFUL of what you are doing. You are actually ENGAGED in living.
COLOR! Add some color to your winter wardrobe. Splashes of green and fuchsia will carry the blacks and greys into spring. Color has the ability to energize anything. You will find that surrounding yourself with your favorite colors will keep you motivated and happy.
SHOP! But don’t spend money! See what is trending fashion wise, what might work for you and what you already have through “research” in magazines, catalogs and on-line! This gives you a “list” of what you are really looking for when you do go shopping. Time spent looking and planning will help you to slowly develop the ‘look’ that presents your evolving self to the world.
CLEAN! Start small with drawers and less daunting closets and get some big WINS right off the bat. We are big fans of clothing giveaways and consignment shops. Separate each drawer or closet into …piles; give away, consignment, keep, and unknown. If you have a little space in your home, use it to really get the momentum going, so you have a full bag to either bring or give away.
MOVE! We have all heard it before, but it bears repeating – MOVE. Even a five minute walk can change your perspective. A realistic beginning of any change is a thought turned into action. The five minute walk, completed each and every day, will soon turn onto the ten minute walk which is the beginning of your first 5K, and so on……
FOLLOW-UP! One of the biggest stallers and guilt producers in self-development is not finishing up the last details of a project or not returning calls or emails. Wrap it up with a nice bow every day….by completing what you have started.
ASK! Ask for help with a small project. Ask for a friend to accompany you on a walk or to try a new event. Asking makes things happen. Not asking often makes us feel lonely and unsupported in our efforts.
APPLAUD! Applaud yourself when you have kept up some new positive changes and look outside yourself to applaud others in a job well done, a great outfit, an act of kindness.
Lastly, this is YOUR change project. Be quiet about it by getting it up and running before you begin to talk about it. By quietly addressing YOUR feelings and beginning YOUR plan of action, when you do start talking about it, people can already see the differences it is making in your life. That garners the best support!
Don’t forget to join us for:
body, mind & spirit
keep the winter blues at bay!
Champlain Wine Company on City Hall Place
5:30 TO 7 p.m.
Wednesday March 26 - Diane Miller
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